Yesterday we touched on ways to ward off the winter blahs. One of the suggestions was to set goals and check items off the lists you create to achieve them. But, how do you set goals? And what do you do when those goals just keep hanging out there like a carrot on a stick? At the end of the first year after Mr. Virgo died, I breathed an audible sigh of relief. Now I could say “He died last year.” It gave me a false sense of comfort that it was “almost over” and I was going to get my life back…or some semblance of it. Little did I know the second year was going to be harder because the numbness was gone. And now, here I am, over halfway through the third year and what are my goals? I have no earthly idea!

A fellow Rancher said her goal was to find someone else to love happily ever after but now she’s five years into this without a knight in shining armor in sight. You could have knocked me over with a feather as I realized that’s exactly what I’ve been doing. I have been looking at every male encounter as a potential mate. Good grief…what was I thinking?

That’s the point though, isn’t it? I wasn’t thinking. I haven’t really been thinking about long range goals. I’ve been planning to feel better this week. Maybe this month. I’ve been chasing happiness but at what cost? No one else is refilling the coffers.

When I got back from Myrtle Beach, I had to sit down and take a serious accounting of where I am. Not just financially, but in general. That little “Hey, girl…how ya doin’?” pep talk we girls gotta have on occasion. And I wasn’t happy with what I saw. I have been feeling a shift lately…a ripple in the force, so to speak. Good things will come of this as it is just another layer of the onion.

Stay tuned tomorrow for Part Two of “Setting Goals”. This is far too big a topic for one post to cover.

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“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.”

Proverbs 19:21 NIV