Comments on: Flexible is My Middle Name https://www.marshmallowranch.com/flexible-is-my-middle-name/ She traded her tiara for wings and a pickup Sat, 24 Nov 2018 05:01:04 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Ginny McKinney https://www.marshmallowranch.com/flexible-is-my-middle-name/#comment-7344 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 05:01:04 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=5430#comment-7344 In reply to Gloria.

❤️

]]> By: Gloria https://www.marshmallowranch.com/flexible-is-my-middle-name/#comment-7343 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 03:23:58 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=5430#comment-7343 Bingo!! You hit the nail on the head. Sorrow, relief yo a point, and then guilt. I’m happy to know it was just not me. Enjoy your company tomorrow.

]]> By: Ginny McKinney https://www.marshmallowranch.com/flexible-is-my-middle-name/#comment-7342 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 18:22:50 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=5430#comment-7342 In reply to Jo.

Oh, Jo…I am so sorry. I didn’t know how to be a widow either. Everyone deals with this loss in their own way. If you look on my website, you can read some of my earlier writings. I can’t put my finger on exactly which post deals with which topic. I can tell you a few things. Don’t make big, important decisions in the first year. Watch your money carefully. There is such a thing as grief brain. Your brain is foggy because it is trying to process everything you’ve gone through. Make lists. You’re going to need them for a while. Grieve at you own speed. Don’t let anyone tell you “you should be over this by now”. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. I hope you will hang around the FB page. There are so many wonderful, supportive people on there that can help you when things get hard. Feel free to message me when you need some extra support. I’m happy to help and to answer any questions you have to the best of my ability. ❤️

]]> By: Jo https://www.marshmallowranch.com/flexible-is-my-middle-name/#comment-7341 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 16:55:30 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=5430#comment-7341 Ginny, thanks for your post.

My husband just passed and I am not sure how to be a “widow”.

Thoughts?

]]> By: Ginny McKinney https://www.marshmallowranch.com/flexible-is-my-middle-name/#comment-7340 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 14:22:42 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=5430#comment-7340 In reply to Sandra Martindale.

❤️

]]> By: Sandra Martindale https://www.marshmallowranch.com/flexible-is-my-middle-name/#comment-7339 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 13:50:00 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=5430#comment-7339 Been there…done that many times. The older one gets the harder it can be for the caregiver. You just have keep on keeping on.

]]> By: Ginny McKinney https://www.marshmallowranch.com/flexible-is-my-middle-name/#comment-7337 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 13:26:15 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=5430#comment-7337 In reply to Janet.

I am so sorry for your loss, dear one. My heart is with you. ❤️

]]> By: Ginny McKinney https://www.marshmallowranch.com/flexible-is-my-middle-name/#comment-7336 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 13:25:38 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=5430#comment-7336 In reply to Helen.

Bless you for doing your very best for your mom, including making difficult decisions. My prayer is that she eases into her new home easily. Walk strong, dear one. ❤️

]]> By: Janet https://www.marshmallowranch.com/flexible-is-my-middle-name/#comment-7335 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 12:44:55 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=5430#comment-7335 Oh my…this was written for me!! The feelings of guilt you described are certainly true! I still have these feelings to surface even now and it’s been 1 1/2 years since my husband passed away. True they are not as frequent as when he first died,but they do happen. I miss him so much!

]]> By: Helen https://www.marshmallowranch.com/flexible-is-my-middle-name/#comment-7334 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 12:41:07 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=5430#comment-7334 I have been at first “overseeing “my moms care and now her full time care giver. When she fell and had to go to assisted living, I fretted about her feelings. We packed up her apt and moved her and she loved her new place-phew! After her last fall, they are telling me she needs memory care now and 3 months later I have to move her again. I can’t bare to tell her and feel she WILL be upset this time. Guilt is strong. She’s 93. Just trying to do what’s best for her but feel so guilty taking her away from her home again.

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