Comments on: No Apologies

By: Ginny McKinney

Ginny McKinney — Fri, 20 Apr 2018 22:19:54 +0000

In reply to Pam Hanson. That’s beautiful, Pam...I’m so glad you were able to focus entirely on your husband and indulge his every whim as long as he could. What a gift you gave him. ❤️

By: Ginny McKinney

Ginny McKinney — Fri, 20 Apr 2018 22:17:57 +0000

In reply to Lynn. That had to have been so difficult for your mom. You’re right, Lynn...we all handle grief differently. I’m glad you had peace with it all. ❤️

By: Ginny McKinney

Ginny McKinney — Fri, 20 Apr 2018 22:15:38 +0000

In reply to Pauline Colquhoun. Oh, Pauline...it is so hard to lose our moms. I didn’t have sibling problems after losing my mom, but I know others who have and it sounds so distressing. I hope you find Just the right time to reach out to your family. Pray the God gives you the right words and timing, dear one. Keep in touch and drive safely. ❤️

By: Ginny McKinney

Ginny McKinney — Fri, 20 Apr 2018 22:09:27 +0000

In reply to Donna OConnor. ❤️

By: Ginny McKinney

Ginny McKinney — Fri, 20 Apr 2018 22:09:07 +0000

In reply to Tena. What a beautiful gift you gave your son AND those he loved. Bless your heart! ❤️

By: Donna OConnor

Donna OConnor — Fri, 20 Apr 2018 21:25:11 +0000

In reply to Tena. That is awesome. Celebrating life can heal us while we grieve. I want people celebrating with me no matter the circumstance of me doing because I know I serve a risen Savior and where I am going.

By: Pam Hanson

Pam Hanson — Fri, 20 Apr 2018 17:45:01 +0000

My husband passed away from cancer after fighting for 14 months. The last months of his life we did anything, saw anyone, ate anything he wanted. To give him some kind of control over an uncontrollable disease, I let him call the shots as long as he was physically and mentally able. As he slipped farther away in the last month of his life I allowed my son ( an adult) to field calls and questions. I also allowed my good friend, Judy, from church to field all good wishes and questions from church friends. This all allowed me to stay focused on my husband and his needs and wishes.

By: Lynn

Lynn — Fri, 20 Apr 2018 14:56:18 +0000

It’s funny, because my sister Susan’s photo popped up in my memories today. We lost her December 30, 2016. Susan was staying with a friend in Ripley and during the night, she woke up and told her friend she was dying. Her friend called 911, but it took about 10 minutes for the ambulance to get there as her friend lived in a remote area. They took her to a local hospital, and then they transferred her to Ruby Memorial, where we went to see her. We waited about 4 hours before we were finally able to see her. I walked into the room, took one look at her, and knew Susan was already gone. That was just a shell of a human being lying on that bed. It was my mother’s decision to take her off the machines, so I said my goodbyes to Susan, hugged my mother, and came home to Parkersburg. I could not and would not stay and watch her being kept alive on a machine because I knew that is NOT what Susan wanted, but the decision was out of my hands. My mother waited another 24 hours and then gave permission for her to be “unplugged” and came home. My sister, Ginger, was the one holding out hope and she stayed with my mother until it was over. That would have been an easy decision for me to make if it was my choice. My sister was not there, and she would not have wanted that. I felt totally at peace when I left that day. We all handle grief the best way we can and I knew she would not want us hovering and watching her in that state. Thank you for allowing me to share.

By: Pauline Colquhoun

Pauline Colquhoun — Fri, 20 Apr 2018 13:43:01 +0000

Tomorrow would have been my mom’s 85th birthday. She passed last month and I was not that her side to say goodbye because as you know my hubby and I are full timing and we were wintering in the RioGrande Valley. I stayed in contact with my siblings but it was very strained mainly because I decided not to fly home when they first told me she was in”comfort care”. I would have been up there over three weeks. I felt at the time I had said my good byes on the phone earlier. Now with her Birthday tomorrow I have caught myself tearing up at the strangest times. Maybe with Mrs. Bush’s passing it is opening my heart. I am sorry for bending your ear, but I feel I can because we both have gone thru losing our loves unexpectedly. We are now on the road and I don’t have anyone to voice my grief and let the tears flow. I know my mom is in heaven with my dad and they are both watching over all of us. I haven’t talked to my siblings since the funeral only thru texting and I feel since I am the oldest I should reach out first but I am afraid it will go wrong. Thankyou for this opportunity. ❤️❤️❤️

By: Tena

Tena — Fri, 20 Apr 2018 13:26:39 +0000

Six days before my son died, after a year and a half long battle with cancer, he fell into a coma. We knew the end was very near but had no idea how long and if he was aware of what was going on around him. I made sure that those six days were not filled with silence and mourning but with his friends and family coming and going, lots of hugs, kisses, laughter and story telling and ‘remember whens’, that if he could hear us, his thoughts would be filled with something pleasant and happy to his ears. On the last night of the coma, just hours before his death, he opened his eyes and looked at me with love and tenderness, he could not speak at this point but his eyes told me all I needed to know and I knew his final days were exactly what he needed❤️❤️❤️