Comments on: Always Choose Joy. Unless You Can’t… https://www.marshmallowranch.com/always-choose-joy-unless-you-cant/ She traded her tiara for wings and a pickup Thu, 22 Aug 2019 14:05:56 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Ginny McKinney https://www.marshmallowranch.com/always-choose-joy-unless-you-cant/#comment-10687 Thu, 22 Aug 2019 14:05:56 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=6679#comment-10687 In reply to Donna Shelby.

I understand. While everyone experiences grief differently, I remember that feeling of not wanting to connect with anyone because I couldn’t bear losing anyone else. That’s called hyper vigilance and it’s perfectly normal with trauma, which is what deep grief is. It has eased for me over time, but I still have moments where I’m at the edge of my tolerance and beg God not to test me anymore for a little while. Grief is hard, hard work…the hardest I’ve ever done. Sending prayers for strength and courage to move forward, dear one. ❤️

]]> By: Donna Shelby https://www.marshmallowranch.com/always-choose-joy-unless-you-cant/#comment-10686 Thu, 22 Aug 2019 13:51:42 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=6679#comment-10686 I am so sad since my husband died a month ago. I keep putting one step in front of the other, my heart is in a constant state of emptiness. I miss Doug soooooo much…I was with him 24/7 (with few exceptions to go to church, get groceries, yard work at the other house). I know my life now has to adjust to a new “normal”. Loss is so difficult to navigate. I find little joy to grasp onto, and I am terrified to make connections with even the people I know.

]]> By: Ginny McKinney https://www.marshmallowranch.com/always-choose-joy-unless-you-cant/#comment-10682 Wed, 21 Aug 2019 19:37:23 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=6679#comment-10682 In reply to Pam Hanson.

❤️

]]> By: Ginny McKinney https://www.marshmallowranch.com/always-choose-joy-unless-you-cant/#comment-10681 Wed, 21 Aug 2019 19:37:14 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=6679#comment-10681 In reply to Melba Robinson.

❤️

]]> By: Pam Hanson https://www.marshmallowranch.com/always-choose-joy-unless-you-cant/#comment-10679 Wed, 21 Aug 2019 16:24:02 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=6679#comment-10679 It is almost impossible to find joy in the middle of grief. But if you can’t find those big moments of joy you can find the little moments. The kindness of a stranger, a door opened for you, a smile given to you. Those are the small joy moments that can help a grieving heart?

]]> By: Melba Robinson https://www.marshmallowranch.com/always-choose-joy-unless-you-cant/#comment-10678 Wed, 21 Aug 2019 16:15:48 +0000 https://www.marshmallowranch.com/?p=6679#comment-10678 Very good advice, but with the elderly when they lose their love one, its hard to find much joy in anything. Families far away, Really no one near. Illiness may be on them as well, Hard to find joy.
Hugs, Melba

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